Alternative Tips for Mental Health, Wellbeing and Balance – Part One

I’m posting the following suggestions in the hope that my personal experiences will help and support others.

I was given mind altering drugs for many years for  a condition which I never had. As a result they unbalanced me and hid the real me for a very long time.

Fortunately with the help of the following tips I am gradually getting myself back. I am even remembering things which were lost to me for a very long time.

Its a very long and hard road but I’m slowly getting there and my husband can see the improvements in my mental state too.

I have separated my tips into several posts because I have so much that I want to share. Have a go at some of the suggestions that call to you and see what a difference they can make with time.


I begin every morning with a meditation. I prefer to use headphones because it filters out the majority of outside distractions.

Its been a couple of years since I started mediating  and with time it became much easier to get in the zone. Meditation is a very powerful tool for me now. Meditation helps me in so many ways;

  •  Calms me
  •  Makes me think more positively
  •  Helps me to see a future and gives me insights into what this future may be.
  •  Makes me feel  ready to start my day.

I began with meditations from Hay House and I like the voices of a lot of the individuals that appear on these. Its great that they have so many different types of meditations to choose from and different lengths to suit what time you have available.

I listen to mine via free Podcasts and have registered my email with Hay House. I registered because I like the free video series that they do which also help with my wellbeing;

Sometimes I also meditate before I go to sleep. Or when I wake up in the middle of the night and need help to get back to sleep. My favourite night time meditations are made by Tracks To Relax;


I practice yoga every morning after my meditation. My favourite instructor that I practice with is Adriene via “Yoga with Adriene” on You Tube or her website;

I can’t thank Adriene enough for making my daily yoga practice a pleasure. I tried a lot of other sites but I was struggling as a beginner to do many of the postures.

Thankfully I find that Adriene always offers slightly different postures in her videos in case you are struggling. Its great to be able to choose a posture that I can work with because she recognises that everyone is different.

I also love the way she expresses herself which often makes me smile or laugh. I would definitely recommend her to any yoga newbies.

It’s amazing how good a stretch can feel, or just moving from the same position that you have been in for a long time.


Remembering to breathe is so important. I find it very calming to just stop and concentrate on the act of breathing. My preference to mindful breathing is;

  1.  Breathe in deeply through the nose to a count of four
  2.  Hold my breath to a count of three
  3.  Slowly breathe out through my mouth to a count of five

I bought myself a picture which has pride of place on my living room wall. It is of a stone buddha sitting with a cascading waterfall behind him. Just looking at this picture reminds me to breathe.

Here is a link to what my beautiful picture looks like;

Buddha Nature Waterfall Landscape

Keep Positive with a Positivity Board

I find it helpful to say positive affirmations to myself. I also keep a positivity board which I read when I need to insert more positivity into my thinking.

A lot of the sayings on the board have been cut out of my Spirit and Destiny Magazines which I love;

As time progresses I find that I can remove some of the older sayings from the board. I throw them away and replace them with new ones. This can be done because I am now automatically doing what it says. Or I find that I am no longer worrying about  things I used to.

The main change that I have noticed so far is that I don’t worry about a lot of things that happened in the past that I used to. I’m seeing them more as something that I needed to learn from so that I can progress.

Writing a Book or Journal

I spent over a year writing a book about my life and I did try to publish it. Although I got three interested publishers I decided that it wasn’t complete and declined them.

Now I’m pleased that I did because I have realised that it was more of a personal journey for me. Writing it helped me to realise that who I am is ok and to begin to leave things in the past which no longer serve me.

It really helped me in many ways and is now useful for my blog because I do input extracts from my book / journal from time to time.

Stay Grounded

My favourite way to stay grounded is to walk barefoot outside. I’m excited as the warmer weather creeps closer because I will soon be able to kick off my shoes and walk barefoot in the garden. I find that this connection to the earth warms my soul.

If I lived nearer to a beach I would also walk barefoot in the sand as much as possible. I particularly like to walk at the waters edge and allow the waves to wash over my feet. The sound of the waves are very calming and make me smile.

Having a Long Soak

Another great way for me to ground myself is to take a relaxing soak in the bath. I create a beautiful ambience by lighting two tea candles which stand on my handmade shell holders. To see these take a look at my “foraging on the beach” post;

For my perfect mix while the bath water is running I add six drops of pure lavender essential oil and a handful of Himalayan salt. I take a good book with me to read to enjoy a longer soak.

It is said that bathing relaxes your tired muscles but that it also cleanses your aura.

Immerse Yourself in Nature


Being in nature always lifts my mood. Although I love the beach and the sound of the waves my heart lies in the countryside.

I love walking through woods, meadows and along riversides . Being at one with nature makes me appreciate the world that I live in.

I find the natural world extremely healing. In fact Shinrin-yoku is the name given to the Japanese art of “forest bathing.” This is contemplative walks through the woods that reconnect the individual with nature and can lead to decreased stress, natural mood elevation, and even a stronger immune system.

If your worried about going out alone try taking someone with you that you trust, such as a partner or a close friend.

Getting Plenty of Rest and Sleep

Getting enough sleep is very important to my wellbeing. To help me achieve this I drink a cup of calming chamomile tea half an hour before I go to bed. I make sure that I hold the cup in both of my hands and breathe in the calming chamomile smell deeply while I drink.

Then when I go to bed I read for a while or listen to an evening meditation because this helps me drift off to sleep.

I have also read that even if you can’t fall asleep its still helpful to have time resting with your eyes closed.

Here are a few other tips for a good nights sleep that I use or have tried;

Silent alarm clock

I like to use a silent alarm clock because then its ticking does not keep me awake.

Sleep mask

A soft and comfortable sleep mask helps to keep out the light. I prefer a cotton mask because it allows my skin to breathe. This is particularly useful if you are sensitive to light like I am.

With my small head I am struggling to find one that blocks out all of the light. The masks still allow light in around my nose area because I cannot find a suitable fit.

 Sleeping plugs

Sleeping plugs are an option if you have a sensitivity to noise but personally I find these uncomfortable to wear

Switch off electronics

I try to avoid electronics in the bedroom and even my bedside alarm is battery operated.

The only time I have an electronic device in the bedroom is during meditation using my  iPad or laptop. Afterwards I always ensure that I switch them off. I have read that it helps sleep if all electronics are switched off an hour before you go to bed, because this tells your body that it is time to sleep. 

Notebook and pencil

My mind can be very overactive at night because I’m thinking of new ideas and jobs that I need to do. As a result worrying that I will forget my ideas by the morning keeps me awake.

To avoid this problem I have started to keep a notebook and pencil on my bedside table. Now when I get those ideas while I’m drifting off to sleep I write them down. This allows me to stop worrying so that I can drop off to sleep.

Limit Use of Electronics

I find that when I use electronics for a long period of time without a break it can leave me feeling irritable and in a bad mood. Therefore I limit my use of electronic devices as much as possible.

Mobile phone

I use my mobile phone as little as possible now. Using my battery bedside alarm I don’t even  have to take it to bed with me. Every night I switch my mobile off and leave it downstairs.


Minimising the use of my laptop is a challenge because with my disability I find it hard to get out much. Therefore it has become a bit of a lifeline especially now that I’m blogging too.

I’m making a concerted effort to take more breaks from the laptop, even if its only to go outside into the garden. This will be easier now spring is here but in colder months I make myself a cup of herbal tea and take it outside to drink.

Video games

Ever since I can remember I have disliked playing video games and often felt irritated from the experience when I did. Now I realise that this is natural for a highly sensitive person because constant staring at and using screens is overstimulating.


As with computers and mobile screens too much television may also be overstimulating. I have reduced my television time to just a few short hours in the evening.

Keep to a Routine

I find that I keep more balanced if I stick to a routine.

My morning routine that I try to stick to includes;

  • Waking up at 6am
  • Listening to a meditation before I get up
  • Doing a yoga practice
  • Make a healthy almond shake for breakfast

Then at night time I try to go to bed and be asleep by 10pm for a good eight hours sleep.

An article I recently read in Spirit and Destiny magazine talked about research published in the Journal of Psychiatric Research. It said that the report revealed that the best time to rise is 6am! I guess I chose the right time then.

It also said that the best way to maximise these early mornings is by doing things such as meditation and yoga. Again I can check this box as I’m already doing it. I feel like I’m being intuitively drawn into doing the right things nowadays.

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I’ve come to the end of my first tips so that I can give you a few days to incorporate anything you would like to try into your routine.

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Don’t hesitate to comment on anything that works for you.

Until next time may you keep well, balanced and happy.


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Common Chickweed

Chickweed is known by many other names which include, chick wittles, chickeny weed,  cluken wort, craches, marins, stitchwort, starweed and winterweed. As a lot of the names suggest chickens love to eat it.

During March I have searched for chickweed while foraging but without success. Some of the plants looked like they could have been chickweed but I wasn’t a hundred percent sure.

To my delight I have just found chickweed growing in my very own garden. Conveniently I found it growing in my herb patch!

I easily identified the low-growing chickweed in my garden because of its tell tale flowers. Seeing its tiny five white petals, which are so deeply partially divided that they looked like ten, told me all I needed to know.

I pick the aerial parts (flower, leaf and stem) because they can be eaten and drunk as a tea. They also  have suggested uses to support the body.

I held off on my first grass cut of the year because I wanted to see what herbal beauties are growing in my grass. When I look at my garden now I see it through totally new eyes. I’m absolutely loving learning to identify and use the beautiful herbs on our doorstep.

Uses for Chickweed

Chickweed is a good source of vitamin C and contains high amounts of silicone.

Silicone is necessary for;

  • the formation of collagen for bones and connective tissue
  • healthy nails, skin and hair
  • calcium absorption

Eaten as a vegetable it is said that it may help people lose weight. Therefore I will have to go careful with my consumption because I have the opposite problem where I struggle to keep weight on.

Sprinkling chickweed onto a salad can taste a little bland therefore I mix it together with other salad leaves. Alternatively livening up chickweed can be achieved by making a pesto. Perhaps by adding garlic, pine nuts and parmesan cheese.

Chickweed Tea

Chickweed can also be made into a tea and this can be achieved by using the fresh or dried herb.

I made mine using the fresh herb by;

  • Adding 4 teaspoons of fresh herb to a cup of water in a aluminium free pan.
  • Bringing it to the boil and simmering for 10 minutes.
  • Straining and drinking.

Using dried chickweed I add 2 teaspoons of dried herb,  boiling water, and infuse for 15 minutes.

Tasting the chickweed tea I found it to be bland but it has a beautiful green colour.

Passing the tea onto my husband I made it more palatable by adding fresh lemon juice and honey. I gave him the tea because he is presently trying to lose weight.

Best Known Use for Chickweed

Reading I found that the most common use for chickweed is external and may help the body to heal with regards to;

  • Bites and stings
  • Boils
  • Bruises
  • Burns
  • Inflamed gouty joints
  • Muscular rheumatism
  • Painful eruptions
  • Soothing itches
  • Splinters
  • Sunburn
  • Varicose ulcers



I’m sure that we have all heard about the old saying to rub dock leaves onto nettle stings. However reading about rubbing chickweed onto fresh bites is a new one for me.

For immediate use picking a handful of chickweed and crushing it between the hands is easiest. Then rubbing the crushed chickweed onto the required area of the body seeking relief.

Even though its still early in the year I have been getting bitten for weeks by insects.  My legs and ankles are covered and I also have them on the left side of my body and left arm.

I find it strange that my husband doesn’t have any. Noone seems to know the exact reasons why some bodies are a tastier treat to mosquitos than others. There are a lot of old wives tales out there but no scientific facts to back them up.

Therefore I was very excited to read that chickweed may help with my bites, itching and inflammation.

I found that being bitten at home and having chickweed growing in my garden, the best option for me was to make a paste.

Making a Paste

  1.  I pulled a handful of chickweed from the ground and washed it.
  2.  Using a pestle and mortar I crushed the chickweed.
  3.  I applied the paste.

Reading that you can apply the paste using a bandage I decided against this option because I have far too many bites. Therefore I dabbed a little of the paste onto a lot of different plasters and placed them over my bites instead.

When I put the plasters onto my skin the bites started to tingle and I could feel some kind of magic going on!

The next day removing the plasters I noticed that the inflammation had gone down. The most recent three bites started itching again so I reapplied, but I did get a few hours relief each time.


As always try a tiny little bit of the herb first because everyone’s body is different and you never know what you may be intolerant or allergic too. I make sure that I do this regardless as to whether the herb will be used internally or externally.

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Reading that chickweed is available almost all year round is fantastic news. Knowing what its potential uses are I won’t be pulling it up and throwing it away ever again.

Enjoy experimenting with chickweed yourself and feel free to share any successes.

Till next time take care.


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Drinking Peppermint Tea under the Full Worm Moon

I have read that the third and final supermoon of 2019 is happening on Thursday 21st March.

A supermoon occurs when a full moon coincides with the moon’s perigee. Otherwise known as the point where its elliptical orbit is closest to the Earth. The Moon appears larger and brighter than usual when this happens.

To see the moon at its brightest in the UK I need to awake when it is closest to the earth. This will occur at 1.43am on 21st March. Weather permitting I will also see the moon between when it rises at 5.30pm on Wednesday 20th March and when it sets at 6.30am on the 21st.

I will take this opportunity to put my crystals and divining necklace outside to re-energise them under the full moon.

Name of the March Full Moon

The supermoon appearing in March is called the Full Worm Moon. Native Americans called it the Worm Moon because March was the month when the ground would thaw and warm. As a result earthworms would start to appear.

Other names for the Full Worm Moon
  • Chaste moon because it signals the purity of the spring season.
  • Crow Moon because cawing crows were said to herald the start of spring and the end of winter.
  • Crust Moon because of snow cover at this time of year when it froze at night.
  •  Death Moon because it is the last full moon of winter.
  •  Lenten Moon because the moon appears during lent which starts on the 6th March and ends on 18th April.
  •  Sap Moon or Sugar Moon because maple trees were tapped at this time.
  •  Storm Moon because March is said to come in like a lion and go out like a lamb.

Spring Equinox

The appearance of the third supermoon coincides with Spring Equinox on March 20th. This is the point when the sun passes directly over the equator.

This is the first time that a full moon and Spring (Vernal) Equinox will coincide within 4 hours of each other in 19 years. The next time that this will occur less that a day apart isn’t until March 2030!

Spring Equinox will take place in the UK at 9.58pm, just four hours before Thursday’s “Worm Moon” supermoon.

I’m looking forward to the spring equinox because it represents a time of rebirth and renewal.

I particularly like the idea that it brings energy for new beginnings and changing paths. We tried to move last year but came across many obstacles which stopped us. Fingers crossed that the Spring Equinox can help us move at long last.

In the Northern Hemisphere the Spring Equinox heralds the beginning of spring but in the Southern Hemisphere it heralds the beginning of autumn.



With spring being the best time to cleanse and clean I will be coinciding  my next saging with this time too.

Peppermint Tea

For the third and final supermoon of 2019 I have chosen to drink my third favourite herbal tea. I will be drinking peppermint tea while taking in the beauty of the moon.

I brew my tea by using peppermint teabags bought from the supermarket. However when it gets a little warmer I will go foraging for the real thing.

Placing my tea bag in a mug of boiling water I cover my mug with a small plate while it infuses. I leave mine for about 5 minutes but it can be left for up to 10 minutes for a stronger taste.

I love this tea because it always helps to ease any stomach pains and bloating that I have.

Some of the ways that peppermint tea may support the body are with regards to;

  •  supporting digestion
  •  helping to relieve wind
  •  relieve involuntary muscle spasms
  •  induce sweating
  •  ease nausea and motion sickness
  •  mildly sedating
  •  lowering blood pressure
  •  alleviating problems of the gut
  • Never place the essential oil undiluted onto the skin.
  • Never ingest the essential oil.

Take a look at my previous posts regarding the first two supermoons of 2019;

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Insect Bites and Peppermint Essential Oil

I can tell that spring is coming because my feet and ankles are getting bit to pieces by insects.

While looking for herbal help with regards to these blood suckers I came across peppermint.

Externally peppermint can be used as an insect repellent. I have read that after making a cup of tea leaving the tea bag to the side helps to repel insects from this area.

As soon as I realised that peppermint repels them I put a couple of drops of peppermint oil into my diffuser to keep the biting pests away. I have found very reasonably priced pure peppermint essential oil from Fresh Skin and I use their products regularly;

Peppermint essential oil can be stimulating and clear the head but cannot be used neat on the skin.


I have read that mint is spiritually protective and cleansing. Spiritual suggested uses are;

  •  Place in a diffuser in your meditation area to remove negative vibrations.
  •  Put mint leaves under your pillow to attract prophetic dreams. (I will certainly try this one when I get hold of some fresh mint).
  • Carry leaves in your purse to attract prosperity.

Enjoy the beauty and power of the Worm Full Moon and please comment on any experiences that you would like to share.

Its nearly here!


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Gorse – Eating, Drinking and Emotional Balance

I found Gorse has many uses. There are so many different ways to eat and drink gorse but it may also support the emotions.

Foraging for Gorse

I’m seeing beautiful gorse all over the place at the moment. Picking the flowers is best in early springtime  but they flower from late autumn until early summer.

I forage for gorse flowers and buds because they are so versatile. My favourite spot to pick the gorse is by a nearby railway line, but I have also found it growing by paths near a river.

They like sunny areas with sandy soil and can also be found on wasteland, commons and heathland.

I’m very careful when picking these flowers because their leaves are extremely sharp and pointed. I do say “ow” quite a lot while picking them even though I wear my gardening gloves. Slow and careful is the best way I have found to forage for these beauties.

If your new to foraging take a look at my “Foraging Tips for Beginners Post;”


Eating Gorse

Gorse Flowers

I read about many different ways to eat gorse on the internet. The easiest option I tried was washing the flower heads and sprinkling them onto a salad.

The flowers made the salad look amazingly attractive and I found them to have a slightly coconutty taste.

I also added my recently prepared ramsons sauce and this made my salad a foragers’s delight. Take a look at my ramsons post if you haven’t already;

Gorse buds

I read that the gorse buds could be pickled and eaten like capers. I was attracted to this idea because I love a few pickles on my salads because they give them a zing.

Firstly I washed the gorse buds to ensure that I removed any bugs that may be lurking.

Next I needed to decide what other vegetables I was going to use in my pickle.

The vegetables I chose to go with the gorse buds were;

  • onion
  • yellow pepper
  • cauliflower

I chopped and sliced enough of these to fill two small jars along with the gorse buds.

The spices I chose to include were;

  • 1 teaspoon of turmeric
  • 1 teaspoon of black pepper
  • a centimetre of fresh ginger sliced

I chose turmeric because I recently bought a jar of mixed pickles infused in turmeric and they tasted amazing. When I looked for them again I couldn’t find them therefore this was a good opportunity to make my own.

Turmeric is such an amazing spice.

Some of the suggestions for turmeric include support for inflammation, pain and poor digestion. As a result I regularly put a bit of turmeric in my casseroles because of my damaged digestive system.

Also I use a teaspoonful of turmeric in a cup of hot almond milk when I have an irritating cough that won’t go away. I found that drinking this gives me some relief.


If you decide to use turmeric as support which may help your body to heal please be aware of the following;

  • It can occasionally cause skin rashes
  • Avoid sunlight because it may cause over-sensitivity

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Filling the jars
  1. I split the turmeric, black pepper and sliced ginger equally into the bottom of both jars.
  2. Dividing the vegetables into the two jars I packed them in tightly. I left a couple of centimetres of space at the top of the jars.
Making pickling brine

I poured the following into a aluminium free saucepan;

  • 3/4 cup of bottled water
  • 3/4 cup of cider vinegar
  • 1 dessertspoonful of sea salt
  • 1 teaspoon of caster sugar (more sugar can be added for a sweeter taste or it can be omitted completely.

Bringing the mixture to a boil I stirred it with a wooden spoon until the salt and sugar had dissolved.

Then I poured the brine over the vegetables just covering them.

I thank for their “How To Quick Pickle Any Vegetable” which I used as a basis for my pickled gorse bud recipe;

I particularly liked the advice to tap the jars after covering the vegetables in brine. Its amazing how much more of the brine could be added when this tapping removed the air bubbles.

I found it hard to guess the amount of brine that I would need to fill my two jars. Luckily I wasn’t far off and only had a tiny bit left that I couldn’t fit in. With time and experience I’m sure I will gage the correct amount to use.

I screwed the tops on my jars and left them on the side to cool. When they had cooled I gave them a good shake to mix in the spices.

Then I put them in the refrigerator. I read to refrigerate them for a minimum of two days but the longer they are left the better.

They need to be eaten within two months but I cannot see any problem at all with being able  to do that!

Tasting the pickles

Two days later I was itching to try them. Firstly I gave the jar a gentle shake and opened it to be hit with an amazing smell. I love the taste too and if feels great to have made my first pickle. I plan to do this again and try some different combinations.


Drinking Gorse

I also read many different ways that gorse can be used for drinking such as making liquors and wine. Some people use the liquor to pour over ice cream.

I decided to make a gorse cordial / syrup. I only picked a handful of gorse flowers and therefore only made a small amount to try.

Here are the ingredients and amounts I used which just need to be multiplied to make more;

  • A handful of gorse flowers
  • 120ml of cold water
  • 50g of caster sugar
  • The juice of half a lemon (orange can also be added or switched for the lemon)

I brought the water to a boil in a aluminium free saucepan and then added the sugar. I stirred the sugar until it had dissolved for 5-10 minutes.

Removing the pan from the heat I added the gorse flowers and lemon juice. Giving the mixture a good stir I  poured it into a Pyrex bowl which I covered with cling film.

When the syrup had cooled I put the bowl into the fridge and left it overnight.

The next morning I strained the liquid into a bottle using a conical funnel and cheesecloth. I love my cheesecloth that I bought. Its lasting ages and was a really good price;

I use the syrup like a squash and pour a little into a glass adding bottled water. Its purely down to personal taste how strong you like it. Drinking the cordial is very refreshing.

Bach Flowers

I found it exciting to read that gorse flowers are also a Bach Remedy.

Bach flower remedies are preparations made from flowers and used as complementary medicine. I have read that they may balance the emotions and  allow peace and happiness to return so that a sufferer’s body is free to heal itself.

Gorse Bach flower remedy is said to support those who suffer feelings of hopelessness and despair. “Gorse types” are also said to often have chronic complaints and lose all hope of improving. The essence is said to bring acceptance, faith and hope therefore enabling a “gorse type” to see the bright side of life.

Preparing Essences

I’m thinking about preparing my own gorse flower essence but its best done by the sun method. Therefore  I may have to wait a while. I feel that it will be difficult to prepare at this time of the year because I need a full three hours of non-stop sunshine.

If I can’t wait then I may try the boiling method instead.

Look out for future posts to show how I do this.


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Cleavers (also known as Goosegrass)


I remember playing outside as a child and returning home to find long green weeds sticking to my clothes. My socks were often covered with them!

Now I know that these green plants are much more than weeds because they are herbs called cleavers or goosegrass.

Its amazing to realise that cleavers can be eaten and have suggested medicinal properties.

Trip to the Lakes

I brought two herbs home from a trip to the Lake District. I found the cleavers and ramsons in a wooded area.

Take a look at this link to see what I did with the ramsons;

Seeing the cleavers  just beginning to grow I foraged a few. February and March is the best time to forage cleavers because its best to eat as a vegetable when it is very young. Picking before the seeds appear in the summer is important because as it ages cleavers will become bitter in taste.

Cleavers can be found by roadsides, in hedgerows and gardens. Personally I avoid roadsides because the herbs may become covered with emissions from passing vehicles.

Eating Cleavers

Firstly I washed the cleavers and gave them a good shake to rid them of drops of water.

Next I put them up in a blender and the smell they produce after chopping is amazing. They smelt like fresh cut grass and made me think of beautiful summer days.

I read that cleavers can be added to soup and stews. It can also be sprinkled onto salads as a good spring tonic.

Therefore I added half a teaspoon to a pasta sauce I had just made. I only eat a tiny portion of a new herb at first to ensure that I do not get an allergic reaction.

It was pleasing to see that I didn’t react negatively to the cleavers. As I result I decided to dry the rest and use it as tea.

Spreading the chopped cleavers onto a paper towel and covering them  with a brown paper bag I left them to dry. I cover my drying herbs because I don’t like them to get covered in dust.

After a week my cleavers were dry and ready to brew.

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Making Cleavers Tea

I put one teaspoonful of dried cleavers into a tea infuser and placed it into a cup of boiling water. This is a good way to infuse dried herbs because you don’t need to restrain them into another cup.

Here is a link to see the type of tea infusers available;

Tea Infusers

I left my infuser in for ten minutes but five to fifteen minutes is fine. It depends upon the preferred strength of the tea.

Its ok to drink this tea up to three times a day.

It was pleasantly surprising to find that even the tea smelt of fresh cut grass. I felt like I was drinking in a lovely sunny day.


To store the rest of my dried cleavers I put them into in a sealed brown paper bag. I store dried herbs for one year and always put their expiry date on for a year from the date I dry them.

Labelling the bag of herbs I included the expiry date and suggested uses of the herb.


I’m pleased I like the taste of the tea because I have read that it may help support the body as a lymphatic cleanser. Due to having breast cancer many years ago this attracted me to this herb. Mainly because of finding my cancer in my lymph nodes. 

I also read that cleavers may support the body with regards to cysts. Again this interested me because my doctors informed me that my remaining breast is very cystic. This means that it can feel lumpy which doesn’t help when I test myself for lumps.

If your unfortunate enough to be going through breast cancer yourself here is my story and tips which may help;

Its suggested that cleavers may help support the body to heal itself with regards to;

  • Breast Cysts
  • Fluid retention
  • Irritable bladder
  • Kidney stones
  • Enlarged lymph nodes
  • Obesity
  • Skin problems such as eczema and psoriasis
  • Urinary problems

Taking the juice makes cleavers strongly diuretic and I have read that the juice has been taken by cancer sufferers. I strongly suggest that if you are unfortunate enough to have cancer that you speak to your doctors before taking any kind of herbal alternatives. Herbs may negatively interact with existing medication.

In fact being on any kind of medication I would always suggest speaking with your doctor before trying alternative treatments.

Next Time

Unfortunately I didn’t grab enough of the cleavers to juice this time around but I will try this next time.

Important Notes:

Please be aware that you never know if you’re intolerant to something new until you try it for the first time. Therefore only try a tiny amount first and wait a day or two to check that there is no adverse reaction. 

If you have any pre-existing medical conditions or are taking any medications, always check with your doctor to ensure that using any of these suggestions don’t contradict them.

Also ensure you are a 100% sure what a herb is before you use or consume it. If in any doubt don’t.


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Ramsons (also known as Wild Garlic)


Walking through a wooded area in the Lake District I saw ramsons everywhere. The trees stood in a beautiful spot surrounding a rippling river.

Ramsons is also known as wild garlic. I wasn’t sure I had found wild garlic until I pulled up a leaf and smelt the unmistakable garlic odour. If that wasn’t enough to persuade me seeing the ramsons flower pods did. The pods looked like they were filled with lots of tiny white balls.

These herbs are native to the woodlands in Europe and I found them in February. How exciting to find a herb that I could forage so early on in the year!

I’ll be looking for them around hedgerows too but ramsons does prefer damp areas.

I’m always careful to forage off the walking paths just in case dogs have decided to do their business there. I leave the bulbs as well so that they can grow again the following year.

If your new to foraging take a look at my “Foraging Tips for Beginners” post;


Eating Ramsons

Both ramsons leaves and flowers can be eaten but the leaves are best picked before their flowers die in May.

Ramsons flowers

I’m very careful when eating a food that I have never eaten before because until I do I don’t know if I am going to be intolerant or allergic to it. Therefore I only eat a tiny amount initially and wait a day or so for any possible reaction. If everything is fine I will consume the new food with no worries.

I have read about people who are allergic to things like parsley. This certainly made me think twice about sprinkling it on while cooking for others! Therefore I feel its best to be careful with anything new because no one person is the same.

Source of Vitamin C

Ramsons is rich in vitamin C and was eaten to prevent scurvy many years ago.

Vitamin C is a important vitamin for our immune systems, healthy bones and tissues. Its also necessary for the absorption of iron.

Not enough vitamin C may lead to various problems such as;

  • Bleeding gums and loose teeth
  • Bruising
  • High blood pressure
  • Low blood sugar
  • Oedema (excessive accumulation of fluid, mainly water, in the tissue spaces of the body)
  • Poor wound healing
  • Scurvy
  • Tiredness
  • Weakness
  • Weak immune system

Making Ramsons Sauce

I decided to make a ramsons sauce with my leaves because its suggested to be useful for my digestive problems.

Firstly I washed the collected leaves.

Using a colander to do this I then gave them a good shake to remove the water drips.

Next I placed the leaves in a dish and covered them with olive oil and cider vinegar. The cider vinegar will preserve the sauce for six months. Not that I think it will last anywhere near that long!

I used a mix of approximately one part cider vinegar to three parts olive oil until the leaves were covered.

I blended the cider vinegar, olive oil and leaves until they were chopped beautifully.

At this stage I couldn’t resist a little taste because it smelt amazing. I ate half a teaspoonful and it was like a burst of fresh spring onions in my mouth but better.

Next I poured the mixture into a glass bottle.

What a beautiful colour!

Lastly as always I labelled my ramsons sauce. I put on the ingredients, expiry date and its uses. Then I popped the bottle into the fridge until required.

I’ve used the sauce on a salad already and it tasted delicious but I bet it would also make a great pasta sauce.


Ramsons pesto sounds delicious too and I have read that there are a lot of different ways to change the taste.

Creating the pesto is similar to the sauce but I would blend the leaves with just a covering of olive oil.

When I next pick ramsons I’m going to try adding chopped up almonds because they are my favourite nut. I may also add a little raw unpasteurised cheese or feta. My stomach violently rejects pasteurised products but a little raw on rare occasions isn’t too bad.

I drink a lot of almond milk too due to my intolerance and I much prefer the taste to standard milk.


Ramsons attracts me personally because one of its uses suggests use as a tonic for the digestive system and to ease stomach pain.

Other suggestions where eating ramsons may support the body include;

  • Lowering blood pressure.
  • Stimulating the circulation
  • Reducing gas and bloating

Its even thought to be helpful to those with asthma but is mainly suggested for preventative health.

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When Ramson Flowers

Flowering ramsons among the bluebells

I also pick ramsons while it flowers at the end of April. It looks absolutely beautiful scattered among the bluebells.

It still smells strongly of garlic but their leaves are much floppier. The wild garlic did not have such a strong taste after flowering but it still made a fantastic ramson’s sauce.


Finally I want to mention that folklore says that wild garlic had the ability to ward off vampires and evil spirits.

I’ve not seen any vampires of the blood sucking variety myself but I have come across a few energy vampires!

Enjoy foraging for ramsons and please share any other ideas on how to eat it on the comments below.

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Dowsing for Earth Energy


My husband and I decided to have a go at dowsing to harness earth energy.

I love the idea of using dowsing to allow me to become more spiritually connected with nature and tune into my intuitive side even more. One of my greatest loves is being outside with nature and always lifts my spirits.

Choosing a Dowsing Tool

Apparently dowsing can work better with company therefore my husband and I are giving it a go together.

Find out more about dowsing from my “Witch Hazel” post;

We both decided to choose necklaces with pendants for our dowsing tools. I chose a necklace which is very special to me. It has an angel pendant and was given to me by my mother who is sadly no longer with us.  At least not in body although I still feel the spirits of both my parents around me.

My husband chose a necklace too with a turquoise pendant that I bought him. I bought this pendant because he has throat problems and turquoise can be used for the throat chakra.

To find out a little more about chakras take a look at my “Aromatherapy” post;

I have read that you don’t need to use a specific dowsing tool. If you have a pendant which is special to you that should be fine too. Crystals are often used so my husbands choice seems perfect.

Or maybe you prefer to buy one;

Dowsing tools and pendulums

Cleansing the Dowsing Tool

To cleanse our necklaces we both decided to place them under a full moon over night. This is because its said to remove any old energies from the tool.

I chose the full Wolf Red Blood Moon to cleanse my necklace. Check out my “Drinking Chamomile under the Wolf Blood Red Moon” post for more details;

My husband chose the full Snow or Hunger Moon. Check out my “Drinking Cherry and Cinnamon tea under the Full Snow Moon” post for more details;

I have read that you can also energise your crystals by placing them in a sunny window sill. Or by holding them under a running stream. Please be careful if you choose the sunny windowsill option because some crystals are not suitable for this purpose. For example amethysts may lose some of their beautiful purple hue and clear quartz may be a fire hazard.

My husband also put his pendulum in a sunny windowsill. This was because on the night of the full Snow Moon it was a little cloudy and we wanted to ensure that his pendulum was fully energised.

Keeping Dowsing Tools Safe

I read that once your energy is on the dowsing tool no one else should touch it. This is to stop the pendulum from absorbing another person’s energy. Therefore I placed mine inside a black velvet bag and my husband uses a red one.

The tools should be cleansed regularly therefore the third and final supermoon of the year will be the perfect opportunity to do this. This event will be on the 20th March 2019 and is called the Super Worm Moon.

Testing the Dowsing Tools

We placed our chosen tools within our enclosed hands and concentrated on them for five to ten minutes with our eyes closed. Doing this infuses our pendulums with our own energy. While I did this I saw deep crimson flashes of colour.

Next we held our necklace chains between our thumb and forefinger of our dominant hands. These were the hands that we write with. We held the chain where the clasp loop is.

Then we ran our non dominant hands down the length of the chain until they reached the pendants. Finally resting the pendants in our upturned non dominant hands.

Once the pendulums were still we removed our non dominant hands and began to test our tools. Initially we did this by asking our pendulums to show us “yes”. My husband’s pendulum swung backwards and forwards as did mine.

Next we asked them to show us a “no” and my husband’s swung in a circle and mine swung left to right.

Moving around we asked our tools to show us “yes” and “no” several times and both received the same responses each time. We were amazed especially when we began asking questions. We asked questions like is it Saturday and we were amazed that we always got the correct “yes” or “no” answer.

Visiting a Stone Circle

On a recent visit to the Lake District we took our dowsing tools with us. I’ve read that earth energy is more potent on sacred sites and that these sites are often marked by standing stones.

Therefore I searched for the closest stone circle to where we were staying. This turned out to be Long Meg and her Daughters Standing Stones near Penrith Cumbria. This is one of the largest stone circles in England and therefore a perfect choice.

I stood near Long Meg and was mesmerised by the glittering red sandstone. The side that faced the sun looked like it had clear crystal running through it which sparkled in the sunlight.


Folklore says that the stones were a coven of witches and they were turned to stone by a wizard from Scotland.

It is also said that from a certain angle the Meg stone resembles a witch and that Long Meg was a witch called “Meg of Meldon”. I agree with the resemblance and to us it looked like there was actually two profiles within the stone.

I even thought that my shadow against the mother stone looked like a witch when I saw it later. Have a look and see what you think;’

I read that the stones are uncountable twice in a row. If they are counted twice in a row it is said that the wizard’s spell will be undone and the witches will be free.

Dowsing at Long Meg and her Daughters Standing Stones

When we arrived my husband and I took our pendulums out of their protective pouches. We then held them in our clasped hands, closed our eyes and meditated for 5-10 minutes.

I leaned against Long Meg while I closed my eyes. Mainly because I had done a meditation the week before which asked me  to imagine walking into a field where there was a large stone. I was then asked to sit or lean against the stone to harness its power!

While my eyes were closed I saw flashes of coloured light and the most dominant  was a bright green. This seemed appropriate because when I picked up my pouch that morning it had two minute white feathers attached to one side. However when I arrived at the site of the stones both of these white feathers had turned green! I know I wasn’t imagining it because my husband saw them when they were white too.

Then we held the chains of our pendulums in our dominant hands, ran our non dominant hands down the length of the chains, and rested the pendants in our palms until they stilled.

Next we walked towards different stones and asked to be showed “yes” and “no” again. Once again we received the same “yes” and “no” responses that we had at home.

Then we asked for “yes” and “no” responses to questions we already knew the answer to. Both of us received the right answer for each and every question.

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Finally we asked questions pertaining to our future.

My pendulum would strongly kick itself out of a backwards and forwards motion to a left to right one when a new question altered it to “no”. On one occasion this action was so powerful that I nearly dropped my pendulum. Sometimes I also got huge “yes” answers as it swung backwards and forwards vigorously.

It remains to be seen if the answers we received come to fruition. Neither of us could deny that the pendulums appeared to work. We both feel that we did not influence their movement in any way.

Try dowsing yourselves and share your experiences. Please comment below if you would like to share.

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Breast Cancer – Reconstruction Pros and Cons

I hope that you have enjoyed my other posts sharing my personal breast cancer and mastectomy story. If you missed them here are the links;

Tips to deal with a Mastectomy and Breast Cancer

Breast Cancer and Radiotherapy


This post shares my thoughts about breast reconstruction. I believe that there is no wrong or right decision about  whether to have reconstructive surgery.  Its  all down to personal choice and what is important to you. Please research thoroughly before you make any decisions and ask as many questions that you feel you need to. This ensures that the decision you make is the right choice for you.

I begin by pointing out that my experience with breast cancer began over 20 years ago and things may be very different now. Even if sharing my story only helps one other person then I will be happy.

No Immediate Choice of a Reconstruction

The doctors told me that I had stage 3 breast cancer and  this meant that I could not have a reconstruction immediately. Leaving my breast skin and nipple attached to reconstruct my breast later was also not an option for me. This was because with a grade 3 tumour I needed my radiation treatment to be directly onto my operation site.

My Reconstruction Choices

I was given the choice to have a reconstruction later and I looked into this very carefully.

I’ve never been very big and because of this the doctors wanted to use tissue from my back to reconstruct my breast. This involved moving muscle, fat and skin taken from my back and would have left a huge scar.

The doctors were particularly keen for me to have this option. At a follow up appointment they even started drawing onto my skin where they wanted the cuts to be made. I hadn’t even said I wanted one!

My second option was to take tissue from my stomach and this would have left a huge scar from hip to hip. This was the doctors least preferred choice because I was very slim.

If I had decided to go along with a reconstruction I felt that all I would gain was a cleavage along with another scar. Being only a tiny A cup at the time I never had much of a cleavage anyway.

Appearance After a Reconstruction

I knew that my reconstructed breast would never look like it did before.  It would show a huge scar right across the middle and it would not have a nipple. I was told that a nipple could have been created by having further surgery at a later date. Also the new breast would feel less sensitive and sometimes even numb.

I found out that there was no guarantee that the reconstruction would match up to the size and shape of my natural breast. This would mean going through further operations to get it right.

One of my greatest fears was the thought of having to have more operations as my shape changed. The main reason for my fear was because of my age. At only 26 years old my shape was bound to change a few times in the coming years.

Possible reasons for further operations to alter the breast shape;

  • Change shape as you age because a woman’s natural breast will begin to droop as she ages
  • Lose or gain weight
  • Get pregnant


My next fear is one that must face anyone who has had breast implants.

A friend of mine had a reconstruction and she was happy with the outcome. Unfortunately years later it leaked and I remember her being very concerned about the damage the leak may cause. Thankfully this has been resolved now and she is fine.

Happy with the Result

Another friend also had a reconstruction and was very happy with the result. So much so that she was very proud of her new body and in particular while wearing a bikini.

I can’t comment on how invasive her surgery was and I don’t know what she was left with after surgery.

Surgery Offers

Periodically over the years I have continued to be offered reconstruction surgery. I’ve lived without a breast now for nearly as long as I’ve lived with one, probably longer if you take into account my childhood.

I admit that certain things about not having  a breast bugs me but not enough to have a reconstruction. I don’t want the risks and I certainly don’t feel the need for anymore scars.

I’m very lucky to have a kind and loving husband who loves me just the way I am.

Challenges of Not Having a Reconstruction

Now I share the challenges that I have faced because I decided not to have a reconstruction.


The hardest thing for me to deal with was clothes.

Having the mastectomy meant I needed a whole new wardrobe. You may think this is a good excuse to buy more clothes but it was a challenging experience to go through.

Many of my clothes were too low cut to wear now because of my high scar. I donated a lot of my favourite tops and dresses to charity. I found this very hard and upsetting but at least they were going to a good cause.

At only 26 years old I was very worried that I would end up looking frumpy. My new style became short dresses because I could show off my legs to make myself feel more attractive. It must have worked because I still received wolf whistles. After what I had been through they meant an awful lot for my self confidence.

I remember having huge issues with some of the clothes shops I went to. They only had communal changing rooms which was the last thing I could cope with after a mastectomy. Entering the changing rooms I would find that everyone was undressing and changing in one big room together. So I just turned around and walked straight back out again. There was no way I was letting anyone see me undressed because everything was still so raw.

Mastectomy Clothing

Mastectomy clothing is very expensive and finding this out was a huge shock at first.

Wearing a prosthesis means that I need to wear special bras and swimwear. These are a lot more expensive than regular items despite the VAT exception that you get from having had a mastectomy.

When I first had my operation the choice of swimwear was horrendous and ugly. Not the sort of thing a young lady wants to wear and I was very embarrassed to wear them. I’m pleased to say that there have been a lot of improvements in the designs.

I have two favourite choices for my mastectomy wear and here is their websites;

  • Amoena UK

  • Nicola Jane


My operation was performed by the NHS which meant that I was entitled to a replacement prosthesis every two years. This saves a lot of money when you see that they are well over £100 each.

Swim forms

The last time I went to the hospital for a prosthesis was because I had lost weight. I really struggled to find a suitable replacement. The prosthesis I did eventually leave with was extremely heavy and uncomfortable. I ended up taking it back and deciding to wear my swim forms instead. I bought these myself but I feel so much more comfortable in them. They are hollowed out at the back which makes them much lighter while still giving a good outside shape.

Take a look at this link to see what the prosthesis forms I use look like;

Swimwear Prosthesis

Foam leisure forms

I also use foam leisure forms which are a great relief from a silicone prosthesis when I want to relax.  Some people even use them to sleep in.

They are also useful for doing an activity where I worry that my silicone prosthesis might get damaged. In the first couple of years after the operation I wore them to go to theme parks. I think at the time I needed to feel the thrill of being alive and the roller coasters helped with this.  Although I do need to wear baggier tops with these foam forms because their shape is not as good.

Here are examples;

Foam Prosthesis

Heavy prosthesis

The weight of a standard prosthesis makes the straps of my bras cut into my shoulders. Therefore its a great relief to use these swim and foam forms instead.

With the heavier breast forms I found that I had to change my bras much more regularly. This is because the elastic strap on the side of the prosthesis loses its elasticity far quicker because its weight constantly pulls it down. Since the operation this has meant far more frequent replacement bra expenses.


I had a lot of tissue cut away and over the years further tissue and muscle has withered away and died. Even now the area where my breast once was is still very sensitive.

Not wearing a prosthesis

I have to be careful when I wear clothes without any breast form on at allA number of times I’ve forgotten that I don’t have my prosthesis on.  I’ve leant over the back of my kitchen chair for instance and immediately wish I hadn’t. It hurts my chest as it connects with the wooden back of the chair because there is no muscle to protect me. 

Due to this my favourite item of clothing to relax around the house in is my fluffy dressing gown. I remove my breast forms and still have good support over my chest area stopping me from accidentally hurting myself.

Uncomfortable sensations

Even with a prosthesis on my chest is still vulnerable. Once someone’s elbow accidentally contacted with my left side where the breast had been when they turned around. This wasn’t all that long after the operation and it brought tears to my eyes. 

Other physical contact can hurt too. Cuddling my husband while naked our skin can become stuck together. When I try to move away the scar tissue can stick and boy does this hurt!


To help with my chest’s sensitivity I use wash puffs because this is far gentler than washing my chest with my hands.

Being Caught Out

Fortunately my husband doesn’t mind me walking around the house dressed but without my bra and prosthesis on. Sometimes I feel the need to do this because I feel so uncomfortable.

I won’t answer the door like this though because it is clearly obvious that the breast is missing from my left side. Otherwise this would make the person answering the door feel uncomfortable and embarrass me.

I don’t like people visiting unexpectedly for the same reason. I need to know that they are coming so that I can ensure I have a breast form on.

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Final Thought

In conclusion I’m happy overall with the decision that I made not to have a reconstruction. I realised that after a mastectomy whichever choice I made would not have been perfect and that I couldn’t expect to have what I once had. The important thing is to make the best of things and love who I am now.

Wishing you long life, health and happiness.


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Herbal Preparation Dosages


I feel its important to write about dosages for herbal preparations which may assist the body to heal itself.

I’ve realised during the last couple of years that I am a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) . This realisation began when I read Elaine N. Aaron’s book “The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Survive and Thrive When the World Overwhelms You.” I thank Elaine for helping me to appreciate my sensitive side and to learn how to live with it.

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As I grow spiritually I also see that I have the traits of an Empath because I seem to feel another persons emotions.

Being a HSP means that I’m more sensitive than the majority because approximately only 20% of the population are highly sensitive. As a result I’m naturally more sensitive to chemicals as part of my trait.

Sensitivity and Drugs

My sensitivities may also have contributed to the very nasty side effects of drugs that I was prescribed in the past.

While learning about herbalism I have found that my sensitivity means that I require lower dosages. Therefore when I use one of my herbal preparations I only need to take a child’s dose for it to be effective.

If you want to see if you are highly sensitive too take a look at my post;

In the post I describe my sensitivities along with examples. See if any resonate with yourself and maybe you have others of your own.

The Golden Rule

When I take a herbal preparation I start with the lowest dose possible. I find its best to begin this way. Then if necessary I increase the dose in small increments until I achieve the desired result.

I prefer tinctures to capsules because its so easy to add or take away a few drops.


I’m not a big fan of taking capsules. They contain standard doses for everyone and do not take into account individual differences. Even when you go into the hospital for an operation your anaesthetic is tailored to your size. I feel that herbal preparations should be too.

Individual differences include;


It seems obvious to me that a smaller person does not require as big a dose as a large person. How can a small and thin five foot pensioner require the same dosage as a strapping six foot bodybuilder?

Airlines assume an average weight per person and unfortunately drug companies seem to do the same.


I often find there are separate instructions for children and some even say for adults only. However elderly individuals often need a lower dose as well.


I find that full dosages are far too powerful for me. An example of this is when I bought myself Astragalus capsules. I bought these because I needed something to try to support my weak immune system.

I took one capsule per day as prescribed on the bottle. After a few days I was bouncing off the walls and couldn’t sleep. This may have been because Chinese medicine says that it may assist with fatigue too.

Therefore I decided to make a tincture with the Astragalus root inside the capsules instead. Now I take a much tinier amount of just five drops of Astragalus tincture in water per day. I’m glad to say that I am no longer bouncing off the walls.

Autoimmune disorders

I’ve read that people with autoimmune disorders who take children’s dosages can achieve success with this amount. An auto immune disease is when your immune system mistakenly attacks your body.


Making a tincture from capsules I open them up to remove the dried root. Then I soak the dried root in alcohol for several weeks and ensure that I shake the mixture on a regular basis. When ready I strain the liquid using cheesecloth and throw away the remaining root. I’m always amazed by the beautiful colours of the liquid that remains.

I find opaque dropper bottles best but if these are not available I use transparent ones and keep them in a dark cupboard.

These homemade tinctures save me a lot of money because a little of the herb goes a long way.

Making my tinctures depends upon many factors and for this reason I consider all factors very carefully before preparing. I only prepare tinctures for myself because I am not qualified to do so for clients. However herbal preparations can readily be bought in tincture form. 

The good news is if you can’t use or don’t want alcohol tinctures glycerine ones can be found instead. These are made with vegetable glycerine which is a clear and odourless liquid produced from plant oils.

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I never take a herb for longer than necessary. When the reason for taking the herbal preparation has disappeared I only take the herb for a further 48 hours then stop.

I always stop taking my homemade Elderberry syrup 48 hours after my symptoms disappear. Elderberry syrup is my first stop whenever a cold begins to rear its ugly head.

I love herbs!

I love my herbal preparations because I’m not getting the awful side effects like the ones I got from pill enclosed drugs.

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Are you a Highly Sensitive Person too?

Choosing to click onto this page may mean that the title resonates with yourself or someone close to you. Have you realised, or think that you could be, a HSP? Were you often called too shy or too sensitive?

Special thanks

Before I begin I want to give a special thanks to Elaine N Aaron and her book “The Highly Sensitive Person – How to Survive and Thrive when the World Overwhelms You.”

Elaine’s book made me realise that there is nothing wrong with who I am.  I was often made to think that there was and maybe this was because HSPs are in the minority. Approximately only 20% of the population are HSPs.

As a result I’m learning to live with, and love who I am. I was so impressed with Elaine’s book that I passed my copy on and bought another for a friend. If your interested in reading an overview of the book click here;




It took me nearly 50 years to realise that I’m a Highly Sensitive Person and I want to share my sensitive traits to see if you could be too.

If you have other sensitive traits please feel free to share them in the comments below.


Whenever I tried to wear clothing with acrylic fibres they always made me itch like crazy. Even woollen garments would effect me sometimes. This meant that during wintertime I wore jumpers made from cotton, polyester or nylon.

I even threw away a hat which I didn’t realise was fifty percent acrylic when I bought it. No wonder it made me itch and brought out a rash of spots on my forehead where it touched my skin.


I’ve always been sensitive to perfume and its caused itching and a red rash at times. I need to use gentle moisturisers, body washes and cleansers which do not include perfume because I want to avoid this reaction.

Recently I stopped using hair mouse and have found that red marks and sores which regularly appeared no longer occur. They would appeared on my neck, cheeks and the top of my back because this is where my hair touched my skin.


This is something which I have always found challenging and I have many examples of how noise effects me;

Background noise

When someone tries to talk to me and there is background noise like a television or a washing machine, I find that I can’t concentrate on what is being said to me. Therefore I have  to mute the television or close the door to shut out the washing machine noise so that I can pay attention.


I’ve even been known to remove a clock from a room because its ticking was sending me nuts.


Studying as a child I required complete silence and would shut myself away in the quietest room in the house to avoid distractions. My worst memory of  studying was for my A Levels. Our next door neighbours decided to re-pave their driveway for the weeks up to and including my A Level exams. As a result I struggled to concentrate and this was the first time that I didn’t achieve the exam results I wanted. I only scraped through but in my mock A-Levels I sailed through.


When I re-married and moved in with my husband I didn’t realise how noisy the neighbours attached to us were. The noises included the parents screaming and shouting at each other, the boys running around shouting rather than talking, and the dog chasing after them barking. The walls were so thin and living next to them proved to be a great challenge.

Working environments

HSP’s are also known to struggle with the constant low levels of machine noise within their working environments.


When I was younger going to shopping centres made me think that I suffered from a form of claustrophobia. So many people around me would make me feel disorientated and dizzy. I can now see that I was just overwhelmed by too many people being around me and sensitive to all of their emotions.

I much prefer where there are less people around if I have a choice. Places like a quiet beach or a beautiful forest. Being with nature always makes me feel calm and happy.

In the last few years I have realised how important alone time is to me. I am fortunate to be in a relationship with a loving and caring husband but I still need alone time. My me time includes walks on my own, meditating, reading, yoga or writing in the office. Alone time is extremely important to me because it reduces my over arousal. Otherwise I may end up getting tetchy and arguing about something unimportant.

Social Situations

Problems dealing with crowds leads me onto how social situations effect me. Here are some examples;


I went to a Bruce Springstein concert with my husband because he is a big fan. It was my first concert and I admit that it wasn’t my kind of music.

Halfway through the concert I felt that just didn’t want to be there anymore. I felt very guilty but I asked my husband if I could leave for the second half while insisting he stayed and enjoyed the rest. Now that I know that I am HSP it makes sense that I was simply overwhelmed by the whole situation. Clearly concerts are no longer for me.

Jobs and training

New jobs which require inductions and training with a crowd of people I don’t know have posed a challenge for me. A one to one method of training is more my style.

Parties and nights out

The thought of going to a party or a night out with lots of people I don’t know is my idea of hell. I will avoid such situations as much as possible.

Going out occasionally with people I am close too is ok but if its busy, loud and crowded I am sad to say that I often need a drink or three to get through it. The alcohol dulls my sensitivities. When I have been is a situation like this I need a quiet day afterwards to recover.


As mentioned I have used alcohol to dampen my sensitivities to avoid becoming overwhelmed.

Colleagues always called me shy and quiet at work until I would go out with them for an evening with drinks. Afterwards my colleagues never called me quiet and shy again. Its unfortunate that it took this for them to begin to warm to me.

I also used to perform better at sports like pool and ten pin bowling after a drink. This was probably due to no longer worrying about other people around who might be watching me.

I’m pleased to say that I hardly ever drink nowadays preferring a herbal tea instead.

Low Self Esteem

I definitely have low self esteem when it comes to partner relationships. I have often felt lucky if anyone has wanted me at all, especially with the added complication of a mastectomy after my divorce.


It is said that HSPs tend to feel more insecure. I can relate to this and feel that these insecurities may have been heightened by the subsequent events caused by the death of my brother before I was born.


Light is a strange one for me because I am very short sighted and struggle to see in the dark. My pupils are naturally large due to short sightedness and because of this they don’t seem to enlarge any further in the dark.

I have read that a lot of HSPs wear glasses.

Problems I have encountered with regards light include;

The cinema

A good example comes from a trip to the cinema with my husband and his two children. We entered after the lights had already dimmed. My husband and his children went off to find seats while I just stood there frozen in space. I couldn’t see a thing so I just didn’t move.

Fortunately my husband realised I hadn’t followed and came back to find me. He had to lead me by my hand to my seat. It was an upsetting experience for me and I even shed a few tears. Yet another situation where I became overwhelmed.

Light bulbs

My poor eyesight also means that I struggle with the new energy efficient light bulbs which are everywhere nowadays. They never seem to produce enough light for me and this causes me to constantly strain my eyes. At home I have extra lighting.


Even though I need extra light to see, at the other extreme I cannot sleep with lights on. I find that even the light from a smoke alarm can disturb me.

I have tried sleeping masks to resolve this but because I have a small head I cannot find one that fits securely enough. This means that light still gets through around my nose and the bottom of my eyes.

A good example of this problem comes from a bad experience staying at a holiday park. Our accommodation was right next door to the car park which had lights on all through the night. Unfortunately the curtains in our accommodation were so thin that the lights shone through. This meant a poor nights sleep for me and lack of sleep makes me feel more overwhelmed.


I am very sensitive to smell but I do wonder if this is a heightened sense due to my poor eyesight.

I find strong odours hard to stomach and these smells include cleaning materials, smoke, and body odours.

I’ve read that HSPs are known to have problems with strong chemical odours. As a result I’m starting to replace my cleaning chemicals with more natural alternatives. These include Bicarbonate of Soda which can be used to clean bathrooms, remove baked on food, clean ovens, and mop floors when mixed with warm water.


When I was very small I experienced regular bouts of pneumonia until we had central heating installed. Showing an obvious sensitivity towards cold.

As a result in the past I have leaned towards holidays in warmer climes. No skiing holidays for me!

Apart from when I have my menopausal hot flashes I tend to be the first to feel the cold.


I easily pick up colds and bugs from people I come into contact with. Even just brief contact with someone who has an illness, such as a cold or stomach bug and I tend to end up with it too.

I seem to have a very weak immune system but this has been heightened due to my health problems. In particular my inability to digest food properly because I cannot take in the goodness I need from my food no matter how healthy I eat.

Drugs / Medications

Strong reactions from drugs seems to be the norm for me. Hence the reason for following more natural alternatives with herbalism.

I have been left with both physical and mental long term side effects due to the chemical drugs I have been given. These side effects continue to be very difficult to deal with but I’m happy to say that I do get some relief from herbal preparations.

The chemical drugs that I was given seem to have ended up causing me more problems in the long term than the illness they were prescribed for. It didn’t help that sometimes I was given drugs that I never needed.


Food sensitivities have been a huge problem for a very long time now. I tried so many different options to help but nothing worked. It turns out this is because cancer treatment many years ago has effected my ability to digest food.


Food leads me onto hunger. When I feel the need to eat I have to eat there and then otherwise I become weak and shaky.

It is said that once over aroused HSPs may not notice this hunger. When I think about setting my mind to do something, like decorating a room, I can relate to this. Once I’m in the zone I don’t stop until the task is completed and often forget to eat or drink in the process.


I am very sensitive to sugar. A good example of this  is when I used to drink Lucozade Energy. The doctor told me that having an energy drink would help me with the side effects of my constant diarrhoea.

The problem was it would make me very hyperactive, silly, and giggly. At work when I opened the Lucozade my colleagues would laughingly say “oh no here she goes again.” My stepdaughter even called it my “loopy juice”.

It did help me get through work days but now I realise this was not a good option for me. Afterwards I would crash and shake which made the world overwhelm me even more.

It got to the stage that I was drinking the Lucozade Energy every work day just to be able to get through them. I weaned myself off eventually but firstly downgraded the sugar content by drinking coke instead.

Nowadays I use more natural alternatives such as honey in my smoothies and stevia in my herbal teas.


Another of my HSP traits is the effect that music has on me. I was a lover of Rock music and found that playing this type of music would get me in the mood for a night out or generally put me in a good mood. Slow sad songs always had the opposite effect tending to make me feel down.

As I grow older I appreciate both slow and fast music. Embracing my spiritual side I now find meditation music calming and relaxing, especially when it includes the sounds of the sea or a babbling river.

Singing along to songs also lightens my mood. I’m sure that anyone within hearing range would prefer that I didn’t though! I remember having a go at karaoke on holiday in Corfu once and made the mistake of chosing “Its my party and I will cry if I want to” by Lesley Gore.

Its a high pitched song but unfortunately through a microphone my voice sounds pretty deep. People were laughing and sticking their fingers in their ears. Some were even taking videos of my so called performance because they though it was so funny. So you definitely won’t be seeing me anytime soon on X Factor! At least I made people laugh and smile.

Others Moods and Emotions

Other peoples moods and emotions have always deeply affected me. Now I clearly see this as yet another HSP trait.

When I am with someone who is happy then this feeling rubs off on me, likewise if they are miserable I feel sad too.


Due to various illnesses and subsequent digestion problems its understandable that I get mentally and physically exhausted quicker than others. At times I can’t even have a conversation with anyone. If I try to have a conversation when I’m tired I “zone out” because I am mentally too exhausted.

Exhaustion is also said to be a HSP trait so this trait is obviously intensified further due to my illnesses.


I have read that HSPs have a more sensitive nervous system. This explains why a soft touch, a kiss, or even a smile can take my breath away. The first time I met my present husband he gave me a small squeeze around my waist and I melted.

There are drawbacks to this sensitivity though because a HSP can be slow to warm up, distracted by a sound, put off by people nearby, and even totally put off by being touched roughly.

Sounds like me! If I’m touched roughly I no longer want to “play” and I won’t consider sexual intercourse if there is someone else staying in the house.

Lower Pain Threshold

HSPs are also said to have a lower pain threshold and to bruise more easily. I certainly agree with the bruising because it is vary rare that I am not bruised somewhere on my body, especially on my legs.


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Do any of these traits sound familiar? If they do the good news is that you are definitely not alone. In fact certain aspects of being a HSP are very special.

Take care of yourself.


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